Unrequited love can ever change

This is how unrequited love changes you for a better person

Unrequited love is not a pleasant thing, and having experienced it at both eighteen and twenty-nine, I can unfortunately tell you that it doesn't get any easier to deal with.

It's just a terrible feeling to take care of someone in a way that doesn't even bother to be by your side when you feel bad. Your thoughts are with him all the time and you are constantly waiting for a little sign to bring hope to you.

No matter how many times you try to tell yourself that you can't be friends and that you want a relationship with him, you are still alone. This fact hurts like hell and you can't avoid it.

But don't let it make you feel less human. You must not think that just because your love has not been returned you have no right to live a happy life.

Because it is precisely because of these unrequited loves in your life that you are a better person.

I keep advising emotionally hurt people to fall in love. Because I know that was what helped me get in touch with the emotions that I previously described as "gross".

When you fall in love, even if not reciprocated, you are able to share parts of yourself that you used to keep hidden. In this moment you feel safe and cared for. And even if you shouldn't be with that person, you know that it is possible to feel love.

It took a while, but in the end it made me very proud.

Do you remember the moment when you looked at your boyfriend and suddenly everything was quiet around you? I can remember it very well. At that moment he put on his jacket before we went to the restaurant together.

I felt so strangely alive, not only then, but whenever I was around him. Even if this relationship never turned out the way I hoped it would, I'm still addicted to that feeling because it's something I didn't even know was possible to feel before.

It's just beautiful - the fact how someone can take your breath away and leave you butterflies in your stomach. You don't know when this feeling can hit you and in a split second, it turns your emotional life upside down.

But what I really want now is a man who has this feeling when he is with me. I am encouraged to know that I don't really want to live alone with cats for the rest of my life.

It allows me to make more conscious decisions about the relationships I want to get into. Because when the time comes, you will meet a person who feels the same for you as you do for them.

Perhaps you have experienced a great loss in your life and unrequited love is difficult to compare, but unrequited love taught me how to grieve and let go.

It took me three years to get over my teenage crush and am still trying to forget about my last failed relationship. That's why I now know how to behave and how best to heal again.

The most important thing I've learned about grieving over unrequited love is that you have to allow yourself to grieve. Do not suppress your feelings, they are a part of you and they should teach you something. I firmly believe that this pain can make us better people.

The reason for the grief is not only the loss of the possibility of having a future with this person, but also all of the previous fantasies you had about them.

The perfect relationship you've been dreaming of all your life is not possible at all. Because you have to feel the loss. Some people will say that if you haven't had a serious relationship, it's very easy for you to forget a man.

Please don't listen to these people. Because your feelings are real and you have to repeat that as often as possible.

In any case, I know that I felt good when I completely cut my last unrequited love from my life.

While you don't have to do this, this pain should make you rethink and reevaluate your relationship with this person. Think about whether their presence is hindering your ability to develop? Or whether the relationship makes you feel bad about yourself? Is she even taking advantage of your feelings?

If so, draw a line on that person. Because this man may never understand how you feel or why you are hurt. Don't try to force him to understand, because he won't change his mind. You can live without a man and you don't have to prove that to anyone.

Unrequited love was not the basis of all my life experiences and I suspect that you are also in the same situation. In such situations, my best friend was my greatest support. She replied to every message, no matter what time I got in touch with her and she was my greatest comfort in these difficult moments.

My unrequited love brought me closer to my best friend.

I trust her now more than ever. And that's worth more than any romantic relationship my unrequited love could have given me.

The most important thing I've learned from all of my failed relationships is that I've never really been in love. I just had a crush. And that is a feeling that happens as suddenly as it came.

But when love is real, it is reciprocated. It goes beyond everything. It doesn't make you feel worthless. I can see that now, and so can you.

Now get out there and find the true love you deserve. Because I know I will ...