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1 Dr. Karl Kriechbaum the person with characteristics Our programs, our environment and our conditions determine our lives. Our freedom has limits. Using the example of famous and notorious people Self-knowledge and self-control can expand the limits.

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4 Table of contents Man with qualities ... 8 Why, why? ... 8 We are like this We (often) cannot do otherwise We don't mean s bad Can we protect ourselves? ... 11 A story that is not unusual ... .12 Human needs and idiosyncrasies ... 26 We humans are something very special ... 29 Programs, circumstances and conditions ... 34 Driving, impairing, dangerous programs ... 35 Narcissistic self-esteem compensation ... 35 Need- Disorder ... 40 Narcissistic Personality Disorder ... 43 Antisocial Personality Disorder ... 43 Psychopathy ... 43 Sociopathy ... 44 Dissocial Personality Disorder ... 44 Power and Abuse of Power ... 45 Crime and Corruption ... 48 Disorder ... .49 Famous and Notorious People ... 51 Mother Teresa ... 51 Joan of Arc ... 52 Jesus of Nazareth, Christianity ... 53 Adolf Hitler ... 56 Mahatma Ghandi ... 59 Bill Gates ... 59 Warren Buffett ... 59 Bernard L. Madoff ... 60 Helmut Elsner ... 60 Arnold Schwarzenegger ... 68 Thomas Muster, Niki Lauda, ​​Hermann Maier ... 68 Josef Fritzl ... 68 Abuse priest ... 68 Idi Armin ... 69 Barack Obama ... 70 Bill Clinton ... 70 Tiger Woods ... 70 Sigmund Freud ... 70 Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Ludwig van Beethoven, Giuseppe Verdi, Peter Illjitsch Tschaikowsky, Frédéric Chopin

5 Albert Einstein, Erwin Schrödinger, Isaac Newton ... 71 Frank Stronach, Dietrich Mateschitz, Hans Peter Haselsteiner ... 72 Josef O., Micro B Albert Schweitzer ... 72 Franz Fuchs, Jack Unterweger ... 72 Silvio Berlusconi, Geert Wilders, Gábor Vona, Le Pen, Jimmie Akesson ... 72 Jörg Haider ... 72 Wolfgang Kulterer ... 81 Heinz-Christian Strache ... 82 Karl-Heinz Grasser ... 89 Wolfgang Schüssel ... 94 Erwin Pröll ... 97 Nicholas Sarkozy ... 99 Gordon Brown George W. Bush Alfred Gusenbauer Properties, coincidences and developments No bad intentions, but bad consequences Political systems and the effects The strange current state A dangerous development Reactions to negative criticism A possible alternative system requirement profiles for politicians free will an illusion? Programs Environment Conditions Psychoneuronal Program Structure Living Conditions Conditions A mathematical formula for humans? Psychoneuronal program system The five elements The manifestations Sketch: Program structure Characteristics and coincidences Self-reflection, self-knowledge and self-control The psychoneuronal autopilot Examples of processes with active autopilots Development and activation of programs Development of psychoneuronal programs Development of positive programs Development of negative programs Activation of positive programs

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7 Dependency Syndrome Psychotic Disorder Amnestic Syndrome Schizophrenia, Schizotypic and Delusional Disorders Schizotypal Disorder Persistent Delusional Disorders Acute Temporary Psychotic Disorders Schizoaffective Disorders Self-Esteem Disorder Needs Disorder Narcissistic Personality Disorder Antisocial Personality Disorder Pedophilia Rape Impacts Inventory of Mental Health Programs in Europe Individual and with Vulnerabilities and disruptions Influencing factors, properties, processes, effects, emergence, aggravation of problems and errors Self-control through external control Problem-error controlling Sketch: Process of problem-error controlling Sketch: Coping with problems and limitation of errors Collection system Program Control System The Analysis and Therapy Scheme The Effects Sketch: Analysis and Therapy Scheme Case - Examples Example: Anger at the boss Example: Anxiety at performances Example: Unemployment and shyness Precision and regularity Sketch: Basics and effects of brain physiology Sketch: Summary of structures and processes Sketch: Program control system Literature directory

8 Why only, why? The person with characteristics Why are we humans the way we are? Why do women multitask while men have tunnel vision? Why do more mature men have fears of commitment, while many attractive women suffer from fear of loss in their prime? Why are the men the hunters and the women the hunted in the beginning, but some time later the women the hunters and the men the hunted? Why do men withdraw and why do women nag? Why is the busy daughter looking after her old mother while the unemployed son has no time to visit? Why are girls so bitchy and boys so rough? Why do students have to learn so many years, formulas and Latin vocabulary when no one asks them about them later? How can the company porter rest so confidently and self-satisfied while the general manager struggles with severe inferiority complexes? Why do you turn narcissistic self-esteem into corporate bosses? Why did a little boy from Styria become a Mister Universum, Hollywood star, billionaire and governor? How did a Jewish itinerant preacher become the Son of God? Why did a college dropout become the richest person and the two-time academic a welfare recipient? Why do smart people entrust their hard-earned money to a smart blender and fraud, although their clear mind and dubious rumors (should) warn against it? 8th

9 Why do we humans strive so fervently for a lot of money and possessions, when (as studies show) a lot of money and possessions do not make people happy? How can it be that a father locks his own daughter in a cellar dungeon for years and abuses it? For what reasons do priests desecrate their pupils and hold honorable church fathers their protective hand over the evildoers? Why do we humans spend so much time and energy on expensive cars, the consumption of senseless information or on clothing and cosmetics and so little on understanding and managing ourselves and those around us? Why is politics the way it is? Why do so many Europeans elect right-wing destructive politicians to high and influential offices? Are these voters inattentive, ignorant, right-wing, deluded, incited or just plain stupid? Why did we citizens let some phallic narcissists grow so tall and cause so much damage? Were we inattentive, ignorant, right-wing, deluded, incited or just plain stupid? How could a severely disturbed man from Austria become the almighty leader of the German Empire? Was it more due to his extreme personality traits, the collective confusion of the people or the special circumstances of the time? Why does a chronic narcissist (in high office) have his fingers in almost every scandal? Is he criminal, corrupt, or just naive? Why do you turn professionally and / or personally unsuitable personalities into party and government leaders? Because those responsible are so mean and malicious or because there is no objective selection process? Why are so many neurotics and privilege knights pushing into party politics? 9

10 Because the current party politics offers profiling neurotics so varied opportunities for satisfaction and privilege knights so abundant privileges? Why is almost every public and semi-public area in our country (and many other countries) set up suboptimally to destructively? Because the profiling neurotics and privilege knights are in charge? We are like that. We humans are the product of our psychoneuronal programs, our circumstances and our physical and mental states. The psychoneuronal program is the result of our dispositions and experiences. It controls us humans and determines our properties. The environmental conditions and circumstances have a permanent effect on us. Our physical and mental condition has a massive impact on us. What has become of us, how we are, what will become of us, depends very much on our programs, the circumstances and our conditions. We (often) cannot do otherwise. Our freedom often has very narrow limits. Certain properties cause a certain career and certain results under certain conditions. Coincidences and dynamic processes such as domino, snowball or butterfly effects often play a decisive role. Due to negative experiences, we all have more or less unpleasant peculiarities, weaknesses and disturbances. These are not only uncomfortable for those affected and other people, but sometimes also dangerous. Need-satisfaction and self-esteem disorders, narcissistic, narcissistic or antisocial properties can harm fellow human beings. Especially disturbed people in high positions in politics and business can cause a lot of damage and suffering. History is full of it. The narcissistic rage of current top politicians and top managers also leaves behind, as we have to experience painfully, misery and destruction. And they (often) do not even know what they are doing. 10

11 Free will, an illusion? Can people, whether wives or mothers, employees or bosses, voters or politicians, decide and act freely? The psychoneuronal autopilot controls us living beings according to the installed programs. Depending on the state of the hardware (body), this reacts autonomously to circumstances and events. We don't mean it's bad. We humans are like that. We (often) cannot do otherwise. We do s (mostly) not deliberately angry. We are beneficiaries and victims (of the facilities and life experiences) as well as benefactors and evildoers (according to the programs and circumstances) in personal union. Active narcissistic people strive for power. Whoever strives for power wants to exercise power. Those who exercise power are abusing their power. Passive narcissistic people seek protection and warmth under the (supposedly) powerful umbrella of active narcissists. Whoever seeks protection needs protection. Those who consume protection are surrendering and making themselves dependent. Because they (often) don't know what they are doing. Can we protect ourselves? Science shows that a beneficial level of activation, self-reflection, self-awareness and self-control can largely deactivate the autopilot. This gives us more independence, control and freedom. We can protect ourselves from ourselves, from unpleasant circumstances and from annoying or dangerous fellow human beings. Therefore know yourself and control yourself. Be attentive and careful when choosing partners, friends, bosses, employees and, above all, politicians. 11

12 A story that is not unusual: 'You compulsive senior teacher, I won't let you tell me anything more.' My dear daughter said that to me yesterday and not for the first time, Mrs. Franziska Martens tells her sister-in-law Grete, the wife of her husband's brother. Mrs. Grete Martens sighs and says: Something like this would not have been possible before. The mother continues: She is ungrateful, snotty and behaves like a prima donna. No wonder no man can take her for more than three weeks. The subject of the conversation, Mrs. Franziska's daughter, Ines, reacts angrily: What you're talking about again. You, you ... don't believe a word you say. She is a notorious liar. You will catch one in a moment, you fool, threatens the mother angrily with a raised hand. Embarrassed silence in the group. Some guests at the neighboring tables eyed Ms. Franziska and the other five family members in amazement. Bruno Martens, Ines father, finally turns to his brother and raises his glass. Paul, happy birthday. It is all around toasted and congratulated. 47 years and not a single gray hair, continues Bruno. After a short break from art, he starts: Paul, in his prime, a man who can do almost anything if he wants. Talk, write and formulate, make laws and co-govern. Watch out and make sure that everything fits, that almost every Gfrast is caught. But not only in office he hardly leaves anything out, he also goes out of his way when celebrating. My brother Paul is 47 years old and he can't keep his mouth shut. So that it stays that way, especially healthy, then we can go on, keep it colorful. I wish you a clean slate also in the future, and only the best for the next few years. The birthday child is laughing all over his face and booming, much to the displeasure of his sister-in-law Grete, in an advanced beer mood: Thank you, thank you for the bittersweet rhyme, now it’s getting funny, we’re a long way from going home. And he adds in high spirits: You may be a shrewd business man, but you will probably no longer become a poet. 12th

13 Bruno counters a bit angry: Yes, yes, my brother Paul, he can't keep his mouth shut. The jubilee then takes a strong sip and thanks for all the nice congratulations and the invitation to the fine restaurant. Franziska sips her champagne glass as a matter of decency. She hates alcohol. Daughter Ines still looks angry at her mother. Liar, she mumbles, staring defiantly into her wine glass. The mother has to control herself very much. To distract herself, she turns to her nephew Clemens: We hear you bought a car. I didn't even know you had a driver's license, and that's alluding to the fact that he failed the test twice. His father, Paul Martens, is no longer in such a good mood: The third time every idiot can do it, he comments acidly. Clemens looks bitterly at his father and says: A good civil servant will certainly do it the first time with good success. He has nothing else to do. Your father works hard. After all, he has become a councilor, Grete defends her husband. Yes, yes, what would we do without the many court councilors, ministerial councilors, lower and upper file arbitrators, the son etches. Clemens please, the mother whispers. We ensure order, stability and progress in our country, emphasizes the Councilor seriously and in a way that supports the state. Clemens replies sharply: You cause waste, laziness and mismanagement. You have no idea, my son, observes Father Paul smugly as always when he is offended and he lacks factual arguments. If you were released into the wild economy, you would not survive there for six months with your narrow-minded civil servants and your civil servant inertia, adds the son. It is astonishing that you in particular take your mouth so full, replies the father. As the laziest of all lazy students, as multiple repeater, as ... Please, Paul, tries to appease the wife and mother. Has Clemens bought a new car or not? The aunt finally wants to know. Yes, he did, confirms Grete. They say it's a kind of racing car, an extremely expensive one, Franziska picks up curiously. Her husband, Paul, explains with a certain admiration: My nephew bought a brand new sports car when he was 18. 4 doors, 400 hp and 4-wheel drive. A dream of a car. How do you know that? His wife wants to know. 13th

14 I was there for the test drive. Why don't I know anything about it? Bruno shrugs his shoulders and grins at Clemens. Grete anxiously follows the heated discussion. Franziska asks where Clemens got all the money from. This explains dryly: Through cleverness, creativity and speed. His father says: At school you don't see much of your cleverness, creativity and speed. In school, cleverness, creativity and speed are also not in demand, replies Clemens. At school, adaptability, good manners and nerdism are required. School is stuffy drill, quick striving and quick forgetting. School is a waste of time. His mother hesitantly says: But look at your father. He was a very good student, has an excellent university degree and has become a councilor. And he was even head of the section. With the active support of the party, Clemens blasphemed. Look at you Bruno. No high school diploma, no university. But a penthouse, villa, three cars, a boat, lots of investments and big accounts. Franziska says: Yes, yes. But not all that glitters is gold. Where there is a lot of light, there is also a lot of shadow. Her husband asks astonished: What does a lot of shadow mean? Bruno, let's be honest ... I don't even want to know how Clemens got so much money in such a short time. Daughter Ines speaks up: You heard it, Mama. Through cleverness, creativity and speed. Just like dad. I'm also clever, creative and quick at my work, but ..., the mother wants to explain, but Ines interrupts her. But you only got money through dad.You were a hardworking student, then a hardworking teacher. Now you are a diligent translator. You may be quick. But clever and creative? Mom, if we want to be honest! The mother looks angrily at the daughter. Again she has to pull herself together very much. Dad is a businessman. He's clever, creative and quick. Clemens is also a businessman. And it looks like he's smarter, more creative, and faster. Thank you very much, says Clemens and smiles at Ines the way Ines likes it. The ice-cold angel, she whispers (based on a role played by the young Alain Delon, whom Clemens looks like). Rumor has it that 21-year-old Ines seduced her then 15-year-old cousin after a boozy New Year's Eve party. 14th

15 Ines likes younger men. Although it works more on older gentlemen. This mixture of Brigitte Bardot and Marilyn Monroe makes many hearts beat faster. To the chagrin of the 24-year-olds, the fathers rather than the sons. Her straw-blonde hair, her always bright red pout, her sky-blue eyes and her luscious shapes attract attention. If she prepares herself accordingly, like today, she embodies the epitome of lust and seduction. Even as a teenager, she was aware of its effect on the male sex. She enjoyed being gawked at, adored and coveted. She liked to play with her sensual charisma and the diverse reactions. She was an average student. Learning was relatively easy for her, but her diligence was kept within narrow limits. In mathematics and Latin, she was always in bad shape in high school. She didn't like math, she couldn't stand Latin. Not only she noticed that the math teacher regularly got a stare look and a red head in her presence. When it came to advancing to the penultimate grade, she bravely (well aware of the risk) played her strongest card. She asked the honorable senior teacher, the faithful husband and caring father of three children, for a one-on-one conversation. The professor, a man with firm convictions and noble values, ultimately had no chance. Despite initial steadfastness and sincere attempts at self-discipline, her feminine charms and his masculine reactions were too violent. She got closer and closer, he got weaker and weaker. So it happened on May 15th in the staff room, two weeks before the last homework. He couldn't help it, he didn't mean it badly. She got a Satisfactory for her work and a Sufficient for her certificate. She rose. In the next class, math did not go so badly, thanks to the kind support of the professor. However, Ines got into an increasingly hopeless position in Latin. Not a single positive test, not a single positive test. It was May again. Again there was only one homework left. Ines began to think seriously. The problem: this time she was dealing with a teacher, a woman. The situation seemed hopeless. At an (apparently) chance meeting during a break, the Latin teacher Ines said: You know you like a clear 'not enough'. And I don't have the impression that the last piece of work will be positive. You will get a review. Ines was contrite, promised improvement, even managed to squeeze out a few tears. Even if you learn to get out the hell out of it now, you will hardly make it. You are missing a whole year. Without professional help it won't work anymore. 15th

16 Ines was puzzled: Without professional help? What do you mean, Professor? I am thinking of competent and intensive tutoring. Yes, I would do that right away. Can you recommend someone to me? It would have to be a teacher. Do you know anyone? Your colleagues probably don't have time now. Exams, schoolwork and so on. Professor, Ines pleaded, couldn't you ... Out of the question. That will not do. After some back and forth, the Latin teacher Ines finally allowed her first tutoring. As an entrance test, so to speak, she gave her a special homework. The meeting was to take place in three days, on Friday afternoon, at the teacher's home. Ines wanted to take the chance. She really tried hard to accomplish the task at hand. Friday came. Ines entered the apartment. The teacher was unusually nice and accommodating. There was even coffee and cake. The entrance test went completely wrong. Ines had the feeling that Professor Ploder was intent on making her look as stupid as possible. Nevertheless, the teacher continued to work with her in a very focused and constructive manner. Another homework was agreed and another date (for Sunday) was set. On the way home, Ines wondered about many things about this tutoring. Frau Ploder didn't want to talk about payment. We'll talk about that later. Nor should she tell anyone about the hours. You know, actually it is not allowed for your own teacher to give private lessons. The dark-haired woman in her forties once mentioned: I would like to see you in the next grade. You are a great girl I like you. Ines also thought about the apartment. The teacher had shown her everything. A large living room (with a huge desk), a large bedroom (with a kitschy double bed) and a small kitchen. Everything is perfectly tidy and organized. Numerous pictures hung on all the walls. Especially pictures of young girls. Sunday came. Again the test failed. Again Frau Ploder didn't give her a chance. Ines, I think it won't work. You can't do that. I'm sorry. She said it very kindly, almost amicably. And she moved closer to her student. You are pretty, very pretty. I know you know You twist 16

17 the head of all men. Ines was embarrassed. She didn't understand the professor's behavior. She added quietly: And not just men. Again she moved a little closer to the 17 year old and looked at her strangely. It was now clear to Ines what her Latin professor wanted. She got hot and cold. In math, you were in a similar situation last year, right? And then you did it after all, the professor whispered in her ear. Ines froze. She got a Satisfactory for her schoolwork and a Sufficient for her certificate. She rose. In the last grade, both math and Latin, thanks to the kind support of the two professors, did not go so badly. Fortunately, she didn't have any major problems with the other items. Even more friendly support would have been too much even for Ines back then. In any case, she was fed up with aging men and homophile women. After all, she passed her Matura more badly than well. After a year off abroad, she began studying. Business administration, in order to be able to get into the father's business once, and nutritional sciences, in order to scientifically get their constant weight problems under control. Despite the super figure she desires, envies and (by jealous women) also hated, she thinks she is too fat. And despite the super figure and super effect on men, she mostly lives alone in her super apartment. She is said to be extremely picky and demanding. Evil tongues also claim that she is moody and bitchy. In any case, despite numerous offers, she is still looking for her dream man. Her parents are already wondering whether she will ever be able to find her dream man. The ice-cold angel, Clemens repeats with a broad grin. And the angel of death, he whispers to Ines. La petite mort. He raises his glass: Looks fantastic again today, cousin. How is your friend, Clemens? She replies mockingly. Which girlfriend? He is amused. Aunt Franziska would love to know what the nephew does so much money with. What kind of business are you doing? Is it allowed to know? His father extremely concerned: Hopefully none of the crooked ones. In my position could ... But Clemens does not let him finish and jokes: The Councilor is constantly worried about reputation and prestige, especially because of the 17

18 bad things his son does. Grete, his dear mother, hurries to put it right: Clemens doesn't do bad things. He works hard. The father is amused: hard is hard, but always lazy is also hard. In the free market economy, it is the result that counts, not the effort, explains Clemens. With you officials, apparently only the time invested counts. There are hardly any results in the narrower sense. The tense Grete tries again to appease: But stop now, get on again. Bruno Martens asks the nephew to finally say what he does for a living, so that peace can finally be restored. Clemens thinks for a moment and says: In principle, I do the same thing as Bruno. I buy cheap and sell dear. Or I get a commission for helping someone buy cheap and sell high. And what do you buy so cheaply and sell so dearly? Asks your aunt. Everything imaginable. Securities, real estate, high tech ... and sometimes cars. Franziska snappy: My little nephew, already a big millionaire! Clemens self-confidently: Unfortunately no, my clever aunt. But I am working on it. Uncle Bruno adds: And he's working well on it. He's a rare talent, believe me. He can become a very big one. Brother Paul adds snappy: A very big speculator. Who earns a golden nose at the expense of others. You and the likes of you live very well off the taxes that business people like Bruno and I pay, countered the son. Uncle Bruno loudly agrees. Father Paul makes a derogatory remark. Mrs. Grete looks worried. Franziska looks thoughtfully at her nephew. Ines says, as admiring as he is spiteful, that Clemens is a born business man: busy, smart, slick, egomaniacal and inconsiderate. An ice-cold angel. As in business, so also in love. That's how it is, Clemens, isn't it? We can't choose. Times are tough. We all have to see where we are, says Bruno. If we didn't have committed business people, the state would collapse quickly. We create jobs, we create productivity and profit, we maintain everything: the workers, the civil servants, the politicians, the pensioners, the unemployed, the highways, the schools, the hospitals, simply everything. But now you're exaggerating excessively, dear brother, says Paul. On the contrary, Mr. Hofrat, Mr. Party official. We also pay for your mistakes, your atrocities and your crimes, scolds Bruno 18

19 and continues. A few of us have already considered not paying taxes because of the immeasurable waste of money in politics. Paul indignantly: The greed of the capitalists knows no bounds. Don't worry, brother. We would not have kept the money, but put it openly in an escrow account. If thousands or even tens of thousands of citizens did that, politicians would perhaps think twice about buying sinfully expensive interceptors, launching costly new elections, flying around in private jets, running expensive advertisements, financing run-down banks, or affording this oversized administration . The Councilor dryly replies that they are trite slogans from ignoramuses and troublemakers. Bruno then says bitterly: That we spend two thirds of our working hours on taxes and duties, that your laws and regulations only hinder and harm us, that we ... I ask you, Grete appeals again, don't argue all the time. We're celebrating a birthday. You are right, woman, calls Paul, let's eat and drink. He lifts his mug and drains all the beer down. Bruno imitates him and orders another round. But you have to admit, the avid profiteer can't help it, some of you are already serious crooks. They give each other the privileges, the business, the golden eggs, they lie and cheat. They fill their sacks with our money. And what is your entrepreneur doing. You make others work for you, you exploit them, and when you no longer need them you throw them away, just like that. What you do on the financial market is the last. Who is responsible for the financial crisis, who caused the great economic crisis, caused mass unemployment, brought states to the brink of bankruptcy? The Councilor complains and takes a sip from the refilled jug. Bruno also has to strengthen himself before he strikes back: You are responsible for that, you politicians. If you would not allow such machinations through appropriate laws and rules, these excesses would never have occurred. Not even now, after the big crash, you're doing something. Either you are lazy, stupid or are in league with the criminals. Grete pleads in a low voice: Please, stop it. Paul replies excitedly: firstly, I'm not a politician, secondly, none of this is true. Parliaments and governments are working hard to get everything under control. What did you say earlier? Says Bruno. Getting lazy is tough too. Franziska vigorously intervenes: So, now comes the cake. From 19

20 with this pointless discussion. Grete agrees, relieved: Yes, exactly! Ines: Not a cake for me. Her mother sardonically: Yes, of course, you have to lose weight, we know. Clemens smugly: But hopefully not in the best places. Ines looks at him grimly and gets up. You know, I still have an appointment. Unfortunately I have to leave you now. An appointment at the dentist? Jokes the cousin. Do you urgently need a filling again? You piglet, she hisses in his ear and leaves. The others hardly notice it. You are busy with yourself and the cake. After a while of mutual silence, Bruno says: I recently read in a newspaper that over 40 percent of Romanians would re-elect the ex-dictator Ceausescu. Paul can't believe it: it doesn't exist. Grete says meekly that she read that too. The people are really nasty idiots, summarizes Bruno. Paul: There you see again that the problem is not the politicians, but the voters who vote the wrong people. Clemens smiles self-satisfied: The real elite is just a small group, a very small one. And you think you belong there, his father says with amusement. With these notes. The son confidently ignores this and continues: A good half of the people are Wappler idlers, parasites and dull heads. At least ten percent are bloodsuckers, including many politicians, officials and civil servants. A third are milking cows who work well, pay well and finance the system. The little rest are the elite. Aunt Franziska listens in disgust but with interest. And who else do you think belongs to the so-called elite? The rich, the determiners, and the leaders. And the scientists, artists and intellectuals, are they also included? Asks Franziska. When they are rich, determine and lead ... or at least achieve something great, replies Clemens and goes on to explain: It's like with animals. The best dominate. They have the largest territory, have the most females and eat the fattest bites. If you have any interesting views, Franziska is indignant. Interesting, I think so too. And it will be even more interesting in a minute, says Clemens and pulls a thick folder out of his classy briefcase. He unerringly opens the folder and points to a newspaper article pasted into it. Then he says: I read aloud: But unlike with plants, animals and our ancestors, there is currently no na- 20

21 natural selection in the sense of evolution through an increase in the reproductive success of these successful individuals. On the contrary: the well-educated, wealthy and leaders multiply significantly less than the poorly educated, socially and economically weaker, needy and dependent. Clemens, Clemens, sighs my aunt, I find this terminology and these comparisons disgusting. The nephew goes on undeterred: The statistics show that in Austria and Germany, for example, the proportion of children growing up in poorly educated and economically weak households is continuously increasing. Not least because transfer payments primarily motivate women from the lower classes to have children. Women from the higher educational and professional classes are much less stimulated by the support money, and, for professional reasons, they also have less time for pregnancy, childbirth and upbringing. Uncle Bruno nods in agreement. Father Paul shakes his head: I've known for a long time that such statistics exist. Even if the political opponents deny it and ignore the media, we are the only ones who take up and tackle this problem. We try to create incentives and opportunities that also help the children of poorly educated and economically disadvantaged parents to get an adequate education. Bruno says with amusement: You can save yourself your election speeches here. We never, ever choose your clique. A mistake, brother, a gross mistake, replies the Councilor. The others are ... The others can hardly be any worse than you, Bruno interrupts him. You set the bar of rip-offs very high. By the way, politicians, Franziska speaks up again and turns to Clemens.The politicians who, if I understand correctly, belong to the bloodsuckers and not to the elite? Our ministers, our head of government, the parliamentarians? Very few politicians belong to it. Most of them are pretty average guys with rather modest potential. They are controlled and used by the elite. Nevertheless they suck the last blood from the people thanks to their party organizations, friendship economy and privileges. Paul looks grimly at his son. Bruno nods and says: No wonder that the world is like this. I always say that the citizens vote the wrong ones, explains the Councilor. They allow themselves to be deceived and duped by handsome faces and beautiful words. Bruno adds with a smile: And like I said: The people are really fools. You make the buck to the gardener and wonder 21

22 then over the eaten beds. The problem: there are voracious goats in all parties. He looks at his brother and adds seriously: You have a whole army of them that you can't get enough of. Clemens immediately agrees with his uncle: They are bloodsuckers. Talking smartly, doing little and cashing in heavily. Paul defends himself against his son and brother. If you knew how hard we work, you wouldn't be like that ... Clemens interrupts his father abruptly: If you really work hard, then it is unproductive or even counterproductive. Some members of the government could hardly be used as a branch manager of a supermarket. Not to mention the large number of MPs who without a party would only have become caretakers in a second-class community building. With the best will in the world, I can't think of a top domestic politician. But you voters are anything but great. Who chooses the right demagogues, those who dare to do something, who want to tidy up, who can do everything better and who promise everything? Who then make one mess after the other, run down the country and shake the whole nation. Paul, please calm down, tries to calms his wife. Without success. Shame on these voters. Their stupidity and irresponsibility endanger our peace and prosperity, he rumbles on. What your comrades have achieved and are still doing unabashedly does not deserve a fame sheet either, says Bruno. On the contrary. No bankruptcy, no crisis, no scandal where you don't at least have your fingers in it, he complains. It was only recently that it became clear who your voters will vote for. As members of parliament, your Gagenkaiser collect 8,000 euros plus three quarters of a director's salary. Publicly call colleagues an asshole or crocodile - big cardboard, small brain. This is how it looks with you. Granted, not ok. But what the others have already said, Paul justifies himself. For example real pig, idiot and so on. Our man has decently resigned. Others become chancellors afterwards. Ms. Grete hesitantly says: But our Chancellor, he's ... He's a good party soldier and honest system administrator, says the son sharply and adds with an expression of contempt: But at least not as full a party bag as his predecessor. Strong words, Clemens, that you find there, his aunt makes fun of. You must like the ex-finance minister. Smart, smart, active, everywhere and involved ... a truly elitist man! An elitist man, Clemens mumbles thoughtfully. Yes, it would have certain characteristics ... but being smart and being a big man are 22

23 little. A man needs understanding, intuition and self-control in order to be able to keep himself at the top. A man? Asks Franziska in astonishment. Don't women belong to the elite? Women are in themselves elitist beings, without whom it would not be worth living for us men, extremely charming Clemens. Hear, hear, Franziska calls. But women, at least those I mean, cannot belong to the elite we are talking about. They are too complex, too social and too emotional for that. His mother listens tense (as always), but doesn't understand the whole thing. What do you mean? She asks uncertainly. Top performance has something to do with lust, being driven, accuracy, efficiency and masturbation, lectures the 18-year-old school refusal and unfortunately-no-millionaire. A woman is part of it when the man is part of it. If she's pretty, sweet, pleasant, and adaptable, she can get a man like this. Well, we're grateful for that, says Franziska. We don't need any nervous whiners or bitches. Top men need calm, concentration and a lot of freedom. Aunt Franziska shakes her head: What kind of person are you, Clemens? He looks at her inquiringly. These settings, where did you get them all from? I had a couple of good teachers, he replies, amused, and points to Bruno. Your husband explained and showed me a lot. Good books can also provide further education. Speaking of books, Franziska takes up. I recently read something I didn't want to believe. But when I listen to you like that, I think there might be something to it. And what did you read there? Bruno wants to know. The book deals with human characteristics. The author believes that the tax programs in our heads are responsible for our thoughts and actions, explains Franziska. What should be special about it? That this is the case is nothing new, says Paul. But that we should be controlled exclusively by programs, without free will, without being able to make free decisions, is a bold thesis, says Franziska. Especially when that's said by an expert. In the ministry, the so-called experts chatter my ears every day. One says A, the second B and the third says C to one and the same question. So much for experts, Paul remarks aggressively. Even if I look at my husband's life like that, his stories 23

24 businesses, his views, his escapades and ..., Franziska wants to explain. Escapades? Her husband interrupts sharply. Yes, antics, dear Bruno, she continues energetically. So his business, views and antics ... I have the impression that he doesn't really do it consciously, not deliberately ... he is what he is, he acts as he is without thinking about it much. Her husband shakes his head blankly. What nonsense. Between us, Bruno. Would I believe that everything you do is really conscious and deliberate, then ...? Then what? Interrupts her husband irritably. Then good night, is her concise answer. Grete asks critically: And what does all of this have to do with Clemens, as you mentioned at the beginning? This book also says that we are not only controlled by the programs, but also strongly influenced by the living conditions and circumstances. Applied to Clemens that would mean that he can actually do nothing for his views, for his behavior and also for his business. It is the result of hereditary disposition, upbringing, society, circumstances and coincidences. He is not really responsible for his bad grades or for his good business. The programs control it, the circumstances promote or inhibit this and that. Paul derogatory: nonsense. You make your own luck. For example, I've always lived honestly and worked hard, the son intervenes in an unfriendly manner. Franziska adds: Everyone is the maker of his or her happiness, yes. If you go deep into yourself, think deeply and be very controlled, the book says. But who really does that? Probably very few. Especially not those who need it most. For example like me and Uncle Bruno, adds Clemens. Or like Silvio Berlusconi, George Soros, Bill Gates or Arnold Schwarzenegger, he proudly lists. Or like Adolf Hitler, Sadam Hussein and Kim Yong Il or like Josef Fritzl, Jack Unterweger and Franz Fuchs, Franziska adds seriously. There was a short silence in the group. Bruno finally expresses himself angry: Throwing Clemens and me in the same pot as Hitler or Fritzl is a tough job. Franziska, please don't let yourself go like this. Sorry, that's not how it was meant, Franziska hurries to correct it. The comparison should only show the power of the tax programs and the influence of circumstances. Just as Clemens apparently does his business purposefully and undeterred, so Hitler has purposefully and undeterred to kill 24

25 and have them murdered. With completely different intentions and results, of course. Of course, Clemens repeated sarcastically. If I understand correctly, Paul now intervenes in the discussion, then in your opinion neither Clemens can do anything for his grandiose business nor Hitler for his innumerable dead. That's not my opinion. That's in this book. It is said that certain types of people are unable to reflect, recognize and gain new insights. Your program controls your thoughts and actions, for better or for worse. Interesting! Roars Bruno. My program now calls for beer. Paul, yours too? I'm afraid so. I don't really want to, but my beer program literally forces me to do it, Paul says with a slightly heavy tongue. I'm just a controlless victim of my upbringing and circumstances. Who knows? Says Franziska into the room. People are like that, they can't help themselves, they mean it's not angry, says the book. Nevertheless, fellow human beings have to defend themselves in order not to become victims of these uncontrolled contemporaries. Yes, that's right, Grete agrees immediately. It's gotten late. We should think about walking slowly. People begin to fight back, Bruno articulates loudly. They no longer want to be victims of our uncontrolled consumption of beer. How about a big dark one and a little goulash over there in the pub? Paul suggests enthusiastically. I'm like that, I can't help it ... I'm not angry, dear sister-in-law. Then we sit down in the café, Grete, Franziska suggests inevitably. Grete is for it immediately. Bruno fits that: When you've finished your Melange, please pick us up from the pub, ok? Then you're done, threatens Franziska, otherwise we'll go home without you. She's like that, she can't help it, she doesn't mean it, Bruno amuses himself and tells the waiter to finish the bill. 25th

26 Human needs and idiosyncrasies Human needs, idiosyncrasies, interests, strengths and weaknesses as well as mental disorders determine the life of the individual as well as the quality of relationships, families and groups. Securing a livelihood, sexual desire, protection, provision, attachment, performance, recognition, status, freedom, control, wealth, power, fame or the exhaustion of one's own potential are basic human needs. Some of these needs go well together and complement each other, while others are in stark contrast to each other. This contrast is often clearly pronounced in one and the same person. Conflicts between the sense of obligation to do an important task and the desire to do something pleasurable are not uncommon. The desire to give up everything and do something completely different also wrestles in many heads with the fear of change and uncertainty. These contrasts appear even more clearly in organizations such as relationships, families, teams, institutions, companies or states. While one group is still struggling to secure a livelihood, protection and provision, another group strives for achievement, recognition and autonomy, a third group is already demanding control, wealth and power. We humans also have our peculiarities, interests, strengths, weaknesses and disorders. These individual characteristics have a constructive or destructive effect in all human collectives. Negative peculiarities, selfish interests or pronounced disturbances permanently lead to misunderstandings, problems and impairments. The constant striving for the satisfaction of needs and the effects of the diverse human characteristics have left deep marks in the history of mankind. Great developments, great inventions, impressive works and fantastic achievements have always been associated with annoying quarrels, stressful conflicts, brutal oppression, shameless exploitation, insurgent rebellions, dangerous fights and deadly wars. Upswing, stabilization, climax, destabilization and decline run like a (blood) red thread through human history. 26th

27 The causes and triggers are always similar: disinterested, careless, unengaged, unenlightened, ignorant, manipulated or incited organization members on the one hand and highly motivated, profit, power-oriented or dogmatic determiners, doers and leaders on the other. In between there is an administrative system dominated by the latter (at least in the case of larger units). The most recent financial crash and the global economic crisis that followed show similar patterns as well. The careless and manipulated US people (borrowers) let themselves be carried away, actively supported by profit-oriented doers (consultants, intermediaries, sellers), to take out high loans for the purchase or construction of houses (as well as for private consumption). In order to obtain fresh capital for new loans, the banks passed on the payment claims from the mortgage loans (including the risks) to investors such as other banks, insurance companies, hedge funds or asset managers - worldwide. This happened in the form of very complicated and difficult to understand securitisations. The borrowers could soon no longer repay the loans, partly because of rising interest rates and partly because income was too low. At the same time, real estate prices fell. The loans were no longer secured. Several American banks and insurers had to file for bankruptcy or be bailed out by the state as a result of the consequences. The bad loans had been sold all over the world as attractive looking financial products. Slowly but surely, the buyers realized that they had paid a lot of money for worthless papers. Instead of the hoped-for profits, huge mountains of debt piled up. Bankruptcy threatened. The political systems were overwhelmed, the politicians surprised and at a loss, but ultimately very committed. The real causes of the crisis could not or should not be diagnosed or treated. Shortly before the impending death of the banking system, the most dangerous symptoms were frantically cured. The states (taxpayers) helped out with huge sums of money. But the confidence was gone. The banks stopped lending each other money. Money was running out. The economy got fewer and fewer loans, but more and more problems. The companies had to save. Workers have been laid off, investments have been cut. Demand and production fell. A cycle developed that led to a severe global economic crisis. The banks were soon making good profits again. The Determiner, Ma- 27

28 chers and guides earned splendidly. The national budgets, which were already deep red before the crisis, were now even more heavily indebted. So it came about that a first country went bankrupt. Where the political system was at its most decadent, where spending was strongest and revenue was weakest, it crashed first. Active financial investors and investors quickly took advantage of the opportunities to make money. The real extent of the dire financial situation in this country became more and more visible. The political systems were overwhelmed, the politicians surprised and at a loss, but ultimately very committed. The real causes of the crisis could not or should not be diagnosed or treated. Shortly before bankruptcy, the most dangerous symptoms were frantically cured. The states (taxpayers) helped out again with huge sums. Other states were also heavily indebted. They had increasing problems getting fresh money. Once again, clever financial investors and investors took advantage of the opportunity to earn good money in the process. The situation became worrying. Serious consequences for the common currency and the monetary union threatened. The political systems were overwhelmed, the politicians surprised and at a loss, but ultimately very committed. The real causes of the crisis could not or should not be diagnosed or treated. Shortly before the whole system was overturned, the most dangerous symptoms were frantically cured. The states (taxpayers) made unimaginable sums available for rescue operations. The danger was not over yet. Many wondered how things would go on. There was good advice for an effective therapy from all possible quarters. The opinions were very different. Depending on the individual and collective needs, interests and peculiarities of the determiners, makers and leaders, solutions were described and concepts presented. The people, who have to pay for everything, were not asked. But the people did not speak up either. And who is responsible for all of this? Who are the culprits, the perpetrators? Some say that the greedy and unscrupulous speculators are to blame. Others think that the lame, incompetent or corrupt politicians are responsible for it. 28

29 We humans are something very special. We are able to invent, develop and realize things that we soon afterwards can no longer control and master. Be it technologies, processes, organizations or systems.Social, political or economic systems are usually well-intentioned in terms of their basic intent, but sooner or later they get out of hand. Collective dynamics of their own develop that can usually no longer even be controlled by the system leaders. Such a system is the financial market, especially the stock exchange. This exerts a magical attraction on people and organizations. They all want to win (at least superficially), to earn (a lot) money. But by no means all are capable of doing so, on the contrary. The cognitive and emotional demands of the stock exchange system on 'normal' or even mentally unstable people are too complex, too contradictory and too intense. The possibilities are on the one hand too tempting and on the other too threatening. Numerous fundamental needs are addressed, activated, and often over-activated. (Börsen-Psychologie, Kriechbaum 2010, p. 7) Only a small handful of clever and cool people are able to really survive in this environment. The highly motivated and quick among them carefully and precisely use every opportunity that presents themselves. You get in powerful, react lightning fast to the development and get out consistently (which the nervous naive don't do). And make huge profits with it. Why do they do that? Because they want to ruin the world? Because they are bad? Hardly likely. For one thing, because it's their job. They just do their job that they do. On the other hand, because they want to earn a lot of money. What most people want. Certain types of people (a certain proportion of the total population) push their limits in science, in business, in politics, in sports, in art and also in the financial market. It is like that, it has always been like that, it is apparently human-immanent. In particular, narcissists and psychopaths, certain self-esteem compensators and needy people (supported by helpers and accomplices) often exhaust the possibilities to the point of no longer going. They are comparable to atomic energy: high-energy, highly dangerous and difficult to control. Some of them also do good, such as scientific 29

30 Findings, great inventions, important works, beneficial social benefits or significant developments that are useful or enjoyable to others. But many of them cause bad things such as abuse of power, coercion, exploitation, incitement, oppression, tyranny, violence, wars, destruction, murder and manslaughter. They are like that, they (often) cannot help themselves, they don't mean it's angry. These (hyper) activities of a relatively small group result in imbalances, problems and often serious crises. The question arises: Why are those who do bad things on a large scale (even if they do not mean it badly), not stopped? Every little pickpocket (if caught) is judged and punished. The crux of the matter: On the one hand, the control systems are missing. On the other hand, the determiners and leaders have little interest in changing anything or even being held accountable. The western democracies (once great achievements) have long since become largely uncontrollable systems. The individual needs and interests of the functionaries and office holders as well as the collective needs and interests of the organizations (public institutions, parties, trade unions or chambers) do not allow objective or even optimal political decision-making and action. The fixation on election dates also contributes to this. In addition, completely different properties are usually required in order to get to the top in a system or to run a system well (in the interests of people). This problem turns many organizations from a blessing to a hostage for those affected sooner or later. The politicians whose job it is to make the rules are usually unable to do so even if they really try. The political system (the party organization, the given dependencies or interests) prevents them from doing so. In addition, the political leaders usually have direct or indirect contacts with the business leaders, the great determiners and the rich. The resulting relationships, dependencies and collisions of interests can very easily nip in the bud a rule that is urgently needed for the people. What the big ones do regionally, nationally or globally, the little ones do locally - in the family, in groups or at work. Man is like that. He can (often) not do otherwise. He doesn't mean it. Looking at the history of mankind, it can be seen that 30

31 Disastrous developments, conflicts, uprisings, seizures of power or wars have usually not been initiated by the mass of employees, members or citizens. It was almost always individuals or relatively small groups of people who instigated something disastrous because of personal and collective interests or because of psychological abnormalities and disorders. The broad masses were infected, activated, carried away, used and ultimately often harmed. The people have never been able to defend themselves against paternalism and arbitrary rule from above. On the contrary: it is ultimately even exploited, determined or even tyrannized by its own people who have become leaders. Here lies the dilemma of the mass of the people. It doesn't work without guidance. But on the one hand those who take the lead in an uprising against the authorities are different in their personality structure than the masses. On the other hand, the elected leaders with their election no longer belong to the broad masses. For their part, they have become determiners who seek to implement their ideas, interests and ideologies. The problem: Opportunities make thieves. One can speak of great happiness if, by chance, the ideas, interests and ideologies of the leaders are in harmony with those of the people. A rare constellation. This is also shown by the latest Amnesty International balance sheet. According to this, torture and ill-treatment are still going on in at least 111 countries. Unfair trials are said to exist in 55 countries, restrictions on freedom of expression in 96 countries and prisoners of conscience in at least 48 countries. (2010 / the-failure-of-international-justice, 2010) A list of the cruelest rulers in the world (according to the magazine KURIER) personalizes some of those responsible for such situations. 1. Kim Jong Il (69), North Korea, in power: 16 years The baddest of the reigning baddies: The little communist dictator is blackmailing the world with his nuclear policy and keeping the country poor and isolated with a fatal planned economy. Anyone who picks up ends up in a labor camp (currently valued people). 2. Robert Mugabe (86), Zimbabwe, in power: 30 years began as a good he fought for independence and ended as a despot. Ruined the once economically promising country, drove it into multi-billion percent inflation. Hundreds of thousands of people 31

32 fled the hardship and brutal torture of Mugabe's thugs. 3. Than Shwe (77), Myanmar (Burma), in power: 18 years old. The head of the military junta belongs to the master class of the oppressors, he does not spare the enslaved population any cruelty. Even after a devastating cyclone in 2008, hardly any foreign aid workers were allowed into the country. The worst enemy of the general, also known as the "bulldog": the slender, Nobel Peace Prize laureate Aung San Suu Kyi, who has been under house arrest for many years. 4. Omar Hassan al-bashir (66), Sudan, in power: 21 years The only living dictator indicted by the International War Crimes Tribunal for human rights crimes. Hundreds of thousands of deaths in South Sudan and Darfur are on his account. 5. G. Berdimohamedov (53), Turkmenistan, in power: 4 years neo-dictator who is still working on expanding his personality cult. The ex-dentist continues the tradition of his dictator predecessor Nyýazow without much imagination. 6. Iasias Afwerki (54), Eritrea, in power: 17 years He led the country to independence, but not to freedom. The ex-warrior, who himself came to power through elections in 1993, does not promise elections for "about 30 or 40 years". 7. Islam Karimov (72), Uzbekistan, in power: 20 years as a dictator from a post-Soviet school. Anyone who criticizes him is automatically insulted as an "Islamist" and can expect torture and imprisonment. Warns against "artificially introducing a democracy". 8. Mahmud Ahmadinejad (53), Iran, in power: 5 years fanatical, radical and uncompromising Iran's president has his enemies locked up and occasionally executed, wants Israel "to sink into the sea" and risks a dangerous test of strength with the whole world with his nuclear policy . 9. Meles Zenwai (55), Ethiopia, in power: 19 years overthrew the former dictator to finally become one himself. The opposition is being clubbed, the country armed, while the people are among the poorest in the world. 10. Muammar Gaddafi (68), Libya, in power: 41 years long-serving dictator in the world with a high eccentricity factor. Sits in his tightly managed police state on great oil wealth, but only allows his people to participate in microscopic amounts. (KURIER, p. 6) So history takes its course, as it always goes in the history of mankind. Sometimes it's calm and stable, sometimes it's haywire. There are few irresponsible perpetrators (they are like that) and many irresponsible victims (they cannot do otherwise). 32

33 And nobody thinks it's angry. So it was, so it is and so it will (always?) Be. Technization, speed and globalization will probably promote and accelerate these processes considerably in the future. Given that resources (water, food or living space) are becoming increasingly scarce in the long run, the struggle for distribution is likely to get tougher. Good for those who then belong to the leaders, determiners, makers or the rich at the latest. 33

34 Programs, Circumstances, and Conditions We are like that. We (often) cannot do otherwise. We don't mean it's bad. We humans are the product of our psychoneuronal programs, our circumstances and our physical and mental states. The psychoneuronal program is the result of our genetic makeup and our experiences in previous life. It controls us humans and determines our properties. The environmental conditions and our living conditions have a permanent positive, negative, supportive, and inhibiting effect on us. Our mental and physical constitution has a massive, activating or inhibiting effect on us. What has become of us, how we are, what will become of us, depends on our programs, the circumstances and our conditions. Our freedom often has very narrow limits. Appendices Experiences Psychoneuronal Program P u tiv e c o rts Circumstances States 34

35 Driving, Impairing, Dangerous Programs Narcissistic Self-Esteem Compensation (Kriechbaum, 2006) Self-esteem, a fundamental and influential personality trait, can be defined as the evaluation of oneself. The evaluation relates to criteria such as personality, skills, experience, self-image, self-perception, effectiveness or expectation of external evaluation. Self-worth is based on characteristics such as self-confidence, personal responsibility, self-confidence, self-confidence, self-assertion, self-esteem and self-acceptance. A stable self-esteem presupposes that you value and accept yourself, that is, respect, like and accept yourself as you are and as you act. Self-esteem has a great influence on how you deal with yourself, social behavior, relationships with other people, communication and performance. Self-esteem does not develop by itself, but from dealing with oneself and the environment. A good self-esteem arises above all when the essential caregivers (especially the parents, also relatives, educators and teachers) have a healthy self-esteem and express themselves and behave accordingly. The expressions and behavior of the important caregivers are therefore of great importance. Above all, the extent and appropriateness of the following criteria are decisive: - Attention and love - Acceptance and recognition - Trust and trust - Requirements and demands - Rewards and punishments - Caring and letting go - Rules and freedom - Praise and criticism - Security and security - Predictability and Responsibility - respect and esteem - calm and activity - individuality and collectivity - dignified treatment - body contact - visibility (appropriate reactions to the child's behavior and feelings) - age-appropriate care - dealing with mistakes 35

36 The early years of life play a central role in this. The development of positive self-esteem, i.e. the appreciation and acceptance of oneself, is essential for the training of constructive psychoneuronal programs. A self-esteem disorder is often the basis of numerous problematic or destructive cognitions, emotions, stress reactions, expressions and behaviors. In neurotic and personality disorders, self-esteem problems almost always play a more or less important role. Two basic manifestations of a self-esteem disorder are: Excessive dependence on affection and love from fellow human beings, combined with the fear of rejection, rejection and withdrawal of love. The resulting tendency to please others and to allow oneself to be suppressed, to over-friendliness, submissiveness and jealousy. But also about intrusiveness, clinging and climbing behavior as well as unfriendliness, aggressiveness or avoiding contact. Excessive dependence on recognition and positive assessment of fellow human beings and / or oneself, combined with the fear of negative assessments, of failures and mistakes. The resulting tendency to excessive ambition and perfectionism or to avoid difficult tasks. Numerous different symptom patterns can develop from these two manifestations of inferiority. A widespread personality weakness is, to a greater or lesser extent, the narcissistic self-esteem compensation. In this context, narcissistic means tends to be similar to the appearance of narcissism, but not in terms of the pathological severity of the narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissistic self-esteem compensation is characterized by the fact that certain needs such as recognition, attention, love, achievement, success, beauty, fitness, celebrity, wealth, control, influence or power are exaggerated due to (latent) feelings of insecurity and inferiority urge satisfaction. Active and passive compensation represent two symbiotically complementary forms. - Active (phallic) compensation is characterized by excessive striving for attention, recognition or achievement, by showing off, showing off, striving for dominance, exercising power, control or overestimating oneself. - The passive (complementary) compensation is based on an identification with (supposedly) successful, talented, wealthy, powerful, high-performing, famous or very attractive persons, who for their part often belong to the active compensators. 36

37 In this way, the passive self-esteem compensators can participate in the (often questionable) charisma of the active compensators and thus transform their feeling of inferiority into an artificial sense of self-worth sooner or later. These symbioses, where parasite and host live together in an often very one-sided give and take, are in part remarkably stable and widespread in nature, as well as in humans. For example, men feel especially great because of the attractiveness of their women. The women feel accepted and loved because of the compliments and gifts from the man. So women base their self-worth on the success of the man. The man feels terrific because of the unconditional recognition and admiration from the woman. Assistants feel significant because of the position of the boss. The boss experiences himself as god-like because of the idolatry of his employees. Football fans feel like world champions because of their club's title. The footballers experience themselves as the best and most important because of the adoration of the fans. Citizens feel greatness and strength in the face of the martial sayings of the demagogic politician. The politician feels competent, powerful and ingenious whether the approval and applause of his supporters. Sons feel like the greatest in the face of the work-addicted father's large amount of money. The father feels loved because of the son's pride. Daughters feel uniqueness thanks to the mother's hard-earned beauty. The mother feels like the super mother because of the daughter's (exaggerated) self-confidence. Teachers or trainers think they are the best because of the learning or training madness of their protégés. The protégés believe that they are special because they are looked after by the best teacher or trainer. These compensation symbioses are usually very one-sided because the parasite (active compensator) usually abuses, exploits and not infrequently damages the host (passive compensator).The self-centeredness and the personal nature of the active compensator lead in the negative case (the expected feedback is missing) to hurt, frustration, aggressiveness and attack. The exercise of power is intensified in order to force the necessary dose of recognition, expression of meaning and affection. The self-centeredness and personalization of the passive compensator lead in the negative case (lack of the longed-for feedback) to hurt, frustration, resignation, depression and withdrawal. Efforts to give and recognize are given up (for the time being), suffering is accepted. 37

38 Compensation can take place not only through inferiority-reducing and self-enhancing identification with other people, but also with the material, immaterial or irrational. Expensive and luxurious goods, scientific or artistic works, intellectual or sporting top performances, spiritual or worldly irrationalities, collective images of friends or foes, meaningful or nonsensical ideals have always become objects of identification and stirrups for increasing personal self-worth. Whereby one and the same person is usually in the role of both active and passive compensator. The active compensation takes place in those disciplines where one thinks to be particularly grandiose. Passive compensation takes place in areas where there are no personal claims to competence or goal setting or where the difference between one's own level and that of the other is clear. For example, as an entrepreneur, a man may be a greedy and disgusting active compensator, but as an art collector, music lover, or racing fanatic, a passionate and devoted passive compensator. As an actress, a woman can be a perfectionist and vain active compensator, but as a practicing believer a reverent and humble passive compensator. A highly gifted college student can be an ambitious and arrogant active compensator as a math student, but a submissive and servant passive compensator as the assistant to his professor. As a minister, a politician can be a power- and media-hungry active compensator, but as a supporter of his football club a fanatical and deferential passive compensator. The wife of a millionaire can be an imaginary and bitchy active compensator as a society lady, but as a client of her yoga guru a passive compensator dependent on recognition and confirmation. As a teacher, the Latin professor can be a mean and mean active compensator, but as a passionate consumer of brutal action films a fully identifying and admiring passive compensator. Active and passive compensators need each other. What would a power and recognition junkie be without obedient and adoring subjects? Probably a very strange looking figure. Individual symptoms that can indicate a self-esteem disorder or self-esteem disorder compensation are as follows: - excessive need for attention, recognition, harmony or security - excessive importance, success, money, attractiveness, control, dominance, Striving for power or achievement 38

39 - Inhibition, shyness - insecurity, weak decision-making, fear of conflict - excessive anxiety and caution - distance, defensive behavior - pushing forward, pushing ahead - difficulties in expressing and representing opinions - difficulties in expressing one's own feelings and needs, communicating to others and asserting them - problems, ' To say no and to criticize if it were appropriate and necessary - Fears of speaking in front of groups - Inhibitions about speaking to strangers (little known) or being underweight (more in women) - Tendency to be aggressive, destructive or violent 39

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